Friday, June 26, 2009

Seriously,...a USCIS Dossier!

I didn't want to post this, because I just finished posting good news about recieving a phone call, and getting a fingerprint date etc.
Well, what good is a blog if only good news is being posted right? Here's a little bit of rain (we are keeping it real)! I get a letter on the 24th, thinking it was the biometrics. Nope! It was from USCIS though; it was a list of paperwork they want us to send in to complete our
I600A (petition for orphan).

1.)W-2's & 2008 tax paper
2.)FDLE backround check under my maiden name & Fred's mother's maiden name (huh?..exactly)
3.)Doctor's reports from Homestudy
4.)5 reference letters from Homestudy
5.)Social Worker License (what is this?)
6.)DCF (Child abuse clearance)again under my maiden name & Fred's mothers...ya okay!
7.)Local police backround check again...under those names....I'm STEAMING!

So far I have completed everything in this 'Dossier' except the DCF (cause its a zoo across town)!

I have until July 30th to complete this..but I am so sending this TOMORROW! I will give them all this and then some more, to confirm who we are as Prospective Adopting Parents! I know this is a MIAMI, FLORIDA thing! Seeing we were both born out of the U.S.A....and now we want to bring another immigrant to the United States? Better believe it! We've earned that right! Wether we populate the country biologically or bring an Orphaned child here..what's the difference? We are paying the 'fees'? We are doing the 'paperwork'!
Good to know we are just being kept safe, right? Immigrants come over the waters into Miami EVERYDAY! Then granted residency, within days! Its taken me, a Canadian Citizen, EIGHT YEARS, the LEGAL WAY! OUCH! I am so affected by this.

I love it when I hear the comments these days by loving neighbors & family & friends...

1.)well technology is so advanced now, that you can choose the sex of the child and have your 'own' girl...(all of a sudden they are interested in technology)!
2.)Why not an American kid? (We have of course, searched these options in the States, as well as Canada, first, but were not comfortable with the way the system works. Especially in the state of Florida, it is so 'Pro-Foster Care' that it would just be a nightmare. We have three children in the home (very young boys), why am I going to bring havoc in our house? To get attached to a child, and then have her taken away, would scar all of us! Canada won't even adopt between Provinces, let alone Internationally)!
3.)What if she is 'sick' or has 'genetical problems'...(what if we God forbid get sick or have genetical problems?)
4.)Well God didn't give you a girl..maybe you should leave it that way..(God expects you & me to take care of the fatherless children, along with the children he Blessed us with), he has power over all things, if he doesn't want, then he won't allow!
5.)Why Russia? (As in..why not China? or Ethiopia, Panama, Brazil, Vietnam, Ukraine, Phillipines, et.? Well, most PAP's start researching all these countries before we make a set decision; we soon learn time frames, costs, laws, processes etc. real fast...we feel as though we had been on a rollercoaster of countries..trying to find out which was for us. I wanted Kazak for the longest, because I found the children BEAUTIFUL! Freddy said China, because of his colleagues' personal experience (and the need to adopt girls), then we said Ethiopia is very poor, and we can get a very young baby, Ukraine is only one trip, and she can look just like me,..but...Ethiopia is very unpredictable and health concerns of parasites & cost variations concerned us. China I am too young for (min. age of 30yrs), and has a 3-4 year wait (can you believe it?), Kazak is too long a trip (2-3 mths), and verrrrry expensive! Ukraine has serious health concerns and also is not a very organized process...and I can go on and on and on..about Kyrgstan, Albania, Armenia, Azerbaijan, Uzbekistan...we looked into all of these countries! Freddy is Cuban (here since 4yrs), I am Italian/Scottish/Dutch (Canadian born) think we really have strict preferences?) We chose Russia, because God led us there, by helping us finally find an Agency, that we were very comfortable with and(who has very limited programs). We just said hey, Russia is bigger than the united States, has many many many Orphans (and when you see why and how bad it is, it breaks your heart to a harsh reality check), we just knew it all felt right. Russians have a diversity just like America does now...and most importantly to us; THE DEMAND FOR PARENTS for children who need homes, (not children for parents) and not needing to wait 3 years..does this sound understandable yet, a little?)
6.) I think this is the last one..the biggest mambo-jumbo is very hard to love a child that is not yours biologically and/or are you going to be able to love her like the boys? Absolutely! (she'll be my only daughter) and anyone who calls themself a friend or family member, who truly know us and our natures, know, that we have the love & concern that it takes..)

SIGHHHHH...I think I covered the biggest concerns & questions, and I think I am over the USCIS thing..cause we want our little girl so badly...we'll do the papers! If I felt that this was not our destiny, the Immigration stuff alone, would have stopped us. It stops a lot of people..otherwise, maybe more people would adopt.

Phillipians 4:13

I can do all things through Christ, which strengthens me.



lynn ortis said...

It is so frustrating!!!!! I know you will go be meeting your precious little girl soon!!!!

Amanda said...

People do ask the most annoying questions, don't they? Hang in there! We brought our Russian Princess home last year and you'll have yours soon too! :0)


hopingforgirl said...

I SO understand your post!!! We have 2 bio boys and have heard EVERYTHING under the sun!!! "What about the boys?" etc. etc. etc... We've also considered SEVERAL countries, pursued a few and been through multiple agencies... and you know what?? I ended up waiting 3 years anyways!!!!!

I just turned 30 so China was never an option. We are with LH and are going on our 2nd trip next week! I can't believe it, truly I can't after all we have been through...

(re-opening by the end of the month if 10 day wait goes well!!!)

adrin said...

I understand your condition. Be positive. Definitely progress.

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